Back to the Grind

Hey everyone, I just figured I would leave a little post about what I have been up to I know I haven't really doen it in a while. Life has been treating me pretty good. I shouldn't complain, but I sometimes do it anyway. So my brother got married at the beginnign of December. It was good. I wish him and hsi wife Becky the most happiness. I had a wonderful Christmas break, I mean it could always be better, but whatever. It was agood time. I spemnt about half home in Maine and the other half here in Vermont. It was nice to spend time with my parents. I helped them by putting ina brand new kitchen floor, that was challenge. While I was home I got to hang out with my friend Aaron to. I guess the highlight was going hiking on the nicest january 4th I have ever seen in Maine, and heading up north to do soem hardcare ice fishing right before coming back to Norwich. The half I spent here in Vermont was really nice to. I spent it with my girlfriend and her family, who ar eliek my other family while I am at school we did a lot of fun things, and it gave me a chance to relax, which is just what i needed. So now I am back at Norwich and cramming mroe then ever before. Beside being a first 1st Sergeant in the Corp. I am now bumping my class load to 23 credits in a hope that i will be able to graduate early, and start seminary a semester early. This is the plan, but we will see if ti works. None the less, I am looking at a busy but rewarding semester. Classes are looking pretty good, and I am taking some that I find definitely very interesting. Well I guess that about covers it for no. Drop me a line if you want to know more.

Ray and I at his wedding

Mt. Cadillac in Maine on January 4th UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!

What is with the Marriage Goal

So something I have been noticing that drives me up the wall and I just had to write about it, is what I liek to call the Life Goal of Marriage. Before I start I am surte I may offend a few people who read this so I will apologize ahead fo time if you get upset. What is with people who's only goal in life seems to be to get married. This is not restricted to one sex or the other, but I have seen it in both. It is a little different for each though. Marriage is an honorable thing, but it is not the only thing. I don't think some people even realize that it is their only goal, but it evidently consumes them. This is more true among people who have similar religious beliefs as me. It is strange behavior and upsetting to me. In guys it seems to manifest itself in an obssesive way. Some guys do not care about their eduaction, they do not care about having a real job, their only real future plans involve finding a wife. Sure they will bluff their way around it, broadcasting their big plans for their life, but a key sign is that they will never fallow through on their goals. They will never become anything more than they have always been. However, they will take the oppurtunity to hit on every pretty girl they know, hoping that they will be "the one" Their life becomes a cycle of trying to trap a girl in a serious relationship and then in marriage before they realize that the guys life is nothign, and that he has no goals, save "the marriage goal". It is all he truly wants and truly desires, and he seemingly does not care the effects it may have on the girl. Girls on the other hand I have noticed become obssesed with finding the perfect guy. Some girls have so much potential, yet all they want is marriage. What is even worse is that soem women go to college simply to look for a man. If they are unsuccesful, they become desperate. it is all they think about, talk about, and in extreme cases write poems and things about how they need to find the guy who loves them. I know as a guy to, that when this happens it becomes more scary to most guys than attractive and they are really lessining their chance to get married. If finding that guy or girl has been your life's goal then something is seriously wrong. I do nto claim to be perfect, but all this seems to be common sense to me. I want to live my life, and do things and advance myself. Sure I want to get married. It is something I definitely want in my future. When that day comes though, I want the woman I marry to be ready, and I want to know that I can support her. I want her to accomplish her goals, and not be my wife so she can cook for me clean for me and have my children. I mean come on, love is great, and so is marriage, but it is not everything, and not all God intended for both men and women.